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Posted on June 17, 2020 at 5:40 PM Comments comments (9752)

Depression often comes with negative thoughts, feelings and behaviors that are overwhelming and inhibiting. It is not uncommon for those affected by depression to begin to view symptoms as characteristics of their own personality. Simply, depression can make a person believe those burdensome thoughts are true, there is zero hope for improving one's circumstances and returning to a life filled with activities once enjoyed, are undeserving.

At SocInq, we understand the difficulty in separating depression symptoms from core personal characteristics and we can help.

21 Days of Mental Wellness Challenge

Posted on June 17, 2020 at 5:15 PM Comments comments (6556)

Please join us on Facebook and Instagram for 21 Days of Mental Wellness Challenge where we will self reflect, positively affirm ourselves and breath new life into our existence. 

Grounding: 5-4-3-2-1 featuring Where's Waldo

Posted on March 17, 2020 at 10:45 PM Comments comments (2159)

Grounding is a coping strategy designed to pull focus toward present moment identifiers and immediately connect to the here and now. Sensory based, grounding techniques help control symptoms associated with diagnoses such as Anxiety, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Depression, and ADHD as well as more specific symptoms to include dissociation, flashbacks, hypervigilance, emotional dysregulation and altered focus. Exercises in grounding can be viewed as distractions, but more beneficially, are mechanisms to calm high running emotions and interrupt negative thought patterns. Grounding is an effective way to re-center one’s emotional experience, recalibrate discordant thoughts and abstain from outburst behaviors.

5-4-3-2-1 is a grounding technique that uses all five senses to explore the world around. This technique asks participants to identify 5 things on can see, 4 things one can hear, 3 things one can touch (actually touch), 2 things one can smell and 1 thing one can taste. With regard connecting to the present moment, 5-4-3-2-1 shifts focus towards an active sensory search rather than continuing to engage in the unpleasant circumstance fueling high emotions, negative thinking patterns and outburst behaviors.

Let’s try! Below is picture a Where’s Waldo picture. I challenge you to place yourself in this scene and explore it with your senses. Please comment:

5 things you can see

4 things you can hear

3 things you can touch

2 things you can smell

1 Waldo

Now, let’s try it in your environment. Step out onto your front porch, stand out in your back yard, have a seat near a big window or go for a walk around the neighborhood and open your senses to the world around. I challenge you to complete 3 cycles of 5-4-3-2-1, each time searching and identifying a collection of sensory discoveries different from the cycle before.  Come back and share your experience!

The House Survey

Posted on March 7, 2020 at 7:35 PM Comments comments (9438)

During my time working at a mental health hospital for adolescents, I worked with many families supporting a child struggling with a mental health diagnosis and too often I was asked how to keep a child safe and guarantee their safety after a recent hospital stay. As much as I wanted to give them ‘The Answer’, to provide them with solid direction ensuring their child’s uncompromised safety, I was unable. Sadly, there isn’t an answer that guarantees anyone’s safety regarding preventing them from acting on their suicidal urges. However, there are precautions. I can recall many conversations where I shared simple and effective guidance on interventions to greatly decrease incidences of a loved one’s success in engaging in self-harm. In this blog post, I will share with you an intervention called the House Survey, an intervention I shared with many parents to assist in creating and upholding a safe environment for their child.

While working at the hospital, I was required to meet with families and patients to discuss safety as part of a successful discharge. The basics of my speech encompassed recommendations instructing support persons to secure obvious means of self-harm, to include locking up all medications, firearms and sharps. My time at the hospital highlighted, that while securing these few items were effective, I had only identified a fraction of potentially dangerous items in the home. Considering this, I started sharing the details of a wonderful intervention called the House Survey. The objective of the House Survey is to spotlight as many means and methods of self-harm as possible specific to the individual patient as well the individual home. Additionally, biproducts of participating in the House Survey fosters teamwork and communication between patients and those supporting them.

The House Survey is comprised of a single and simple question, “Have you thought about hurting yourself in this room?”. The question is non-suggestive and unassuming. Through this inquiry, the patient’s perspective is at the forefront. The patient is able to share with support persons the narratives surrounding thoughts and urges relative to in home spaces. Specific to each patient and each home, it is important for support persons to understand the potential dangers relative to the patient. For example, I once had a child explain to his mother how the glass in the picture frames that displayed suspended moments of happiness throughout their lives, were triggers for his cutting behaviors. The mother was horrified and saddened. She had not considered her child’s urges to cut included breaking the glass out of pictures, frames that had captured him at some of the highest points of his life. The House Survey is a means of information helping support persons pinpoint potential dangers we may have never considered. And, if the question is “How do I keep my child safe?”, then the long answer is “Knowledge.”

The survey is carried out with the patient and a support person walking through each room of the house. The support person will ask the question, to which the patient will disclose thoughts, feelings and behaviors associated with self-harm in each room. It is important support persons keep the non-suggestive and non-assuming nature of the question as means of reducing inception of further self-harming thoughts. Support persons should also couple the questing with the request of relinquishing any hidden self-harming implements without consequence.

Regarding sustained safety, the House Survey is a form of information gathering. The survey provides support persons with insight into the thought process of a loved one’s self-harming urges. Such knowledge makes it easier to secure the means specific to the methods and significantly reducing acting on self-harm urges when thoughts are present.

SocInq understands the demands and nuances of supporting a loved one struggling with suicidal thoughts and urges.  We can help.  Contact us for a Care Coordination session and we will help you complete a home survey with your loved one.

Supporting A Loved One Through Thoughts of Suicide

Posted on February 21, 2020 at 10:20 PM Comments comments (2061)

1. Remain Calm. You cannot be helpful, if you too, are freaking out.

2. Acknowledge their feelings. Be present to the fact of how difficult it must be for your loved one to admit they want to end their life.

3. Inquire. Ask how, when and where they intend to complete the act.

4. Secure. Call for assistance & secure the area of any identified or potential items that can be used for self-harm.

5. Cope. Engage your loved one in activities or conversations that will distract from or disrupt self-harming thoughts.

6. Get Help. Connect with a therapist, Emergency Hospital Staff or Law Enforcement if you are unable to keep your loved one safe.


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